¢… i) Describe the issue.304Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡg8rWG7TKfV
There was a minor communication conflict with a certain person I thought I have a deep connection with. I thought such a thing was just a trivial matter that could easily be solved by open discussions and clarification ASAP. Yet the other person has been avoidant and dismissive. In my view, we don't really need to "end" a relationship thoughtlessly like this, unless violence or abuse is involved.
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¢… ii) Describe your emotions. What caused them?
Delayed responses only allowed my feelings of confusion and hurt to intensify. This reminds me of many past traumas/patterns. Even though I have been encouraging and patient, I feel disrespected and disappointed that the other person didn’t invest in the relationship timely and just pull away.
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¢… iii) Notify the problems on my side / What I have learnt from this experience?
I tend to believe that if I am sincere and prioritise others, they will do the same for me. Though I may inspire others, I forgot to be assertive about my emotional needs and communication style.304Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡOe94SxMcTs
Also, I have to deal with my unresolved wounds and relationship insecurities from the past.304Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡvNgOX9QObX
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¢… iv) What do I truly need?
- Timely reassurance: prompt clarification through words and actions when I feel confused, hurt or insecure.
- Feel valued: honour the plans and prioritise our time together. Be reliable, consistent and update changes ahead of time. Brief messages daily show consideration, even when busy.
- Mutual investment: we both invest equal effort in communicating, caring and working together to build intimacy and closeness.
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¢… v) Convert them into motivational words!304Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ8U6wba7YUw
I deserve healthy relationships and to be treated with respect and consideration.
I have the power to heal my past wounds and overcome relationship insecurities.
I honour my needs, feelings and values by expressing them clearly, with patience and grace.
With open communication, mutual respect, and a willingness to work together, we can overcome any obstacle!
I choose to respond with love, kindness, and understanding: I will attract the same energy back into my life!!
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