Hi, all! The gist of this post is basically about how I confessed to my crush today (even though I know he wasn't interested), and just some advice on how to get over a crush (I hope they help in some way).
First, for how I confessed to my crush,. basically, I'll just say when I have a crush I go all out. That's all. So when I had a crush on him for like a little bit, I decided to get him some stuff for his birthday (I know, I know, but I promise I'm not desperate; I just love giving gifts, and again, I go all out when it comes to crushes). But anyways, as I tried to get to know him more, I ultimately realized he wasn't interested and it wasn't by him directly telling me that he didn't like me romantically, but like you know how you can tell by certain clues and hints? Yeah, that's how I found out. That's okay and fine!! Everyone has their own like type of person (not in a shallow way) that they like, and there's so many factors, but I don't know the exact one. But again, in the end, there was no hard feelings, and I'm fine!! Thank YOU, God
Anyways, based on our past conversations (not in real life, but in chat since it was vacation/class break and of course the pandemic was going on) and social media, I got some intel on the stuff he's interested and his hobbies and such. By social media, I meant the social media we were chatting on lol. Anyways, based on what he told me and such, I got some stuff that I thought he'd like. Some people are telling me that what I gave him was a lot, but I don't think so! I think a lot would be giving gifts based on the age of the person's birthday, and giving a big cake, and having a small event/celebration. Since he was my crush, and we didn't know each other super well, I just gave him a medium-sized gift bag full of things.
I won't tell every single thing I got him, since the event is over with and the gifts have little to do with my actual confession (I gave a confession letter along with the gifts), and those gifts were for his birthday (which had already passed), and not for the confession. I will say though that I gave him Christian items (of course!), like a cross bookmark, a verse sticker, some small knick knack Christian items, like a paper sticker and a miniature Holy Bible, and a small pamphlet (again, Christian). I also gave him vegan food, some stuff related to his passions and hobbies, and a lot of sweets basically LOL (I shouldn't have gave him a lot, as I don't want him to get sick, since eating a lot of sweets are bad, but anyways, I hope he likes all of the gifts). 282Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡsQxYcoXChU
For my confession letter, I of course used eco-friendly paper (most of the materials I used for his gift like wrapping, gift bags, and even the tape and boxes are eco-friendly), and I hand-wrote three pages (I seriously would just have typed it but I don't have a printer so... lol.). I basically said what I needed to say, without being too forward or too direct, and I explained myself. I told him also that the letter is not part of the gifts; the gifts were for his birthday, but this letter is separate from them. Lastly, of course, I told him I had a crush on him, and I said how I know he's not interested but that's totally fine, there are no hard feelings, and that I'll stop bothering him and that everything is fine and that he doesn't need to reply to this letter at all. That last part was one of the most important things I wrote in that letter, as I didn't want to make him feel comfortable or pressured, and I just wanted to express my feelings, because FOR ME (everyone is different of course!) I know I wouldn't be able to move on if I hadn't given him it. A thing I hadn't told you all is even before I confessed to him, he already knew that I liked him, so yeah. I just wanted to tell him myself and clear everything up, and then finally move on!! :D One more thing is that my friend who has classes with him was the one who gave it to him, not me, as like I have no classes with him, and yeah I wouldn't want to make him uncomfortable.. ^__^
For some tips about how to move on from a crush, this is just me, but if you also feel the same way, then yayyyy; um so I believe that we should date to marry! So we shouldn't be dating around and such, but that's my perspective as I'm a Christian and I believe in 'the one'. I want my first romantic relationship to be my last. If you have your own standards (that are not shallow) about what you truly need in a person romantically, don't ever lower your standards for anyone, not even your crush. If for example, one of your values is that the guy or girl needs to have a strong relationship with God, then the person you like isn't even a Christian and is not like what you value in a person, then don't waste your time if they're not interested in what you value. Your values and beliefs are extremely important and are I believe the foundation of each and every romantic relationship. How to get over your crush is knowing your worth, and knowing that if you think that they're not 'the one' for you, or they don't share the same core values as you, then why would you want to be with them? If you think they're attractive, then please know that beauty doesn't last forever. Can you imagine them being with you always, and growing old together? Can you imagine them being loyal and a kind person to everyone, as a whole? Are there any red flags or not so good behavior that you really don't want in a romantic relationship? Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't share your values, or doesn't keep you as a high priority? I'll tell you this too: there is no such thing as right person, wrong time. God doesn't make mistakes; everything happens for a reason. If they're making you feel insecure, or jealous, or they don't seem interested in getting to know you truly, then why would you want to be with them? You are amazing, great, talented, and loved; never let anyone treat you bad, no matter what! God wants the best for you. If you want to get to know your crush then do it, but please be mindful and decisive when it comes to knowing if they're the right one for you or not! Most importantly, listen to God, pray, and keep on cultivating a closer relationship with Him. If you listen to God, He will guide you, and so then you'll know what to do, and you'll feel more at peace, no matter what situation you're in. I hope you all are feeling loved, happy, and blessed no matter what situation you are in, and know that you are whole on your own. God didn't create you just for you to get into a relationship; God created us to be holy and to live our lives in His way and happily! God should be the focus of our lives... God bless you all!!! <3 ^---^
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