How Are You ? Why Even Ask ?118Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡmAcXD6M6a9
The other thing that bothers me a lot is that, when I meet someone or when I'm talking with someone on a call, the How are you ? question always pops up. When the question, "How are you ?" pops up, it's not like you want to know what's behind all those doors that can be opened by the question in itself, so why throw around such an invaluable key question ?
I find it to be an irritating question sometimes because it feels like people are just saying it sarcastically or meaninglessly. The main reason I'm not a fan of the question or ones that are similar to it is that, whenever I'm asked, my mind draws a blank, a literal blank, and I become speechless and don't know what to say. When talking to someone face-to-face most of the time, I tend to ask them if they are asking me how I am doing physically, mentally, socially, emotionally, psychologically, or if their question is under some other term I don’t know about.118Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡyQXV47yWBt
When talking to someone and when I'm feeling indebted to not waste their time on a call, I usually say, I’m fine, or I say, I'm physically alive and kicking. Because I know not everyone wants to hear about how poorly I’ll be doing in other areas of life.
I did explain this issue to one of my best friends, and he said that's why we were best friends. He said we could talk about stuff happening in each other's lives, but friends can't help being friends, I suppose. I said a few words to gauge how he would respond, and...118Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ6Kw9wHOwtv
He did have some interesting things to say, but, as it turns out, on the points I needed answers to, he never said anything per se; he just answered most of the stuff I said in a manner of skipping over the things I needed answers to. Of course, I then realized that I probably shouldn't have bored my best friend with whatever I was both telling and asking him, and I apologized.118Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡfto4cnEM5O
I did end up telling him that I would not mention things that would make him despise our conversations together, and ever since then I learned that even my best friends needed exemptions from my answers too, that I had to answer them the way I answered other people too—short answers not deep enough to rile other things people always try to run away from when having serious conversations.118Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡL54LiNc9Xi
