As opportunities to express my opinions have increased, the time period for cultivating my own opinions has become shorter. As a result, after my education, I have faced situations in society where I did not adapt well, gradually experiencing more and more pain, particularly in my mental state.
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I was able to slowly express my thoughts from the latter part of high school until after college, as there were often discussions. Prior to college, I had little desire to socialize, but it should be noted that previous family education has already reached the subconscious level, requiring more time to change.
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My parents never praised or encouraged me, only expressing their concern that I could not do something or not to mess things up. As a result, thoughts such as "I can't do it" or "I'm not good at it" continue to appear in my mind. This has caused a lot of turmoil in my heart and mind, and my introverted personality has had a significant impact on my life.
Many times, confidence is necessary, so I eventually created a masculine personality in my heart. When faced with decisions or situations where confidence is needed, I would imagine myself as a strong boy.
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My parents believed that having thoughts required patience and not expressing them was a virtue, indicating a mature side. I believe this is where the problem lies...this can cause a childhood problem, a kind of harm to the child. I am not sure how to express this issue, perhaps it is a childhood trauma, but this kind of education has certainly had a significant impact on someone's life.
To me, it is a problem that can never be solved. I understand that my family loves me very much, but at the same time, I feel very burdened because we can never communicate effectively. It seems like they only have one way of thinking, and no matter what I say, I cannot change their perspective.
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When parents teach their children from a young age and keep saying things like, "I work so hard to support you and give you an education, so what are you studying? How are you going to find a job in the future?" or "We're not as good as other families, so we should be content." They keep placing their burdens on their children, causing them to be unable to relax, feeling unworthy and undeserving of many things, and it will greatly affect their future personality development.
It is essential to give children confidence in their education so that they will become more and more motivated, and not feel like small setbacks or failures are big issues. If parents encourage their children more, and give them the belief that they can achieve their goals by taking a step forward to try, children will accomplish more, have more confidence, express their feelings more easily, know what they want, and be better at expressing themselves. They will not become a person with low self-esteem, and all the goals they have in mind can be achieved slowly rather than just imagining them without the courage to put them into action.134Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡb2oz7IoWbK
