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單身不一定會焦慮和寂寞，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡPfyh5nYKBN
有拖拍又不一定會不焦慮和不寂寞，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡlpzg3nmIn4
但單身是可以寂寞的，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡXZHLzNr6eo
寂寞的感覺是可以被容許和接納的。
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有太多閒言閒語和刻版印象，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡfL1a754PPn
令到單身人士與「寂寞」、「孤癖」、「沒人愛」、「有問題」等負面詞劃上等號，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2aZSqUrfUj
弄到「單身會寂寞」好像是多麼不要得、是多麼失敗的狀態。327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ1I3lYjPZvb
單身人士明明活得自在，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ5A10ozZsyU
但為了不想被標籤負面形象，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡcqq1Q5Tvwe
又想為單身一族平反，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡvVcr0wr5Nv
也要花力氣刻意解釋自己仍然安好地生活。327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡMrdHm1y0xA
同樣地，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡDKLbWQfE1H
這亦令到單身人士不敢寂寞，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡGTPjU25CXh
或者不敢感受和承認自己的寂寞。
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我們知道自己時常會寂寞，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡkDtJutOcyV
卻不願意好好去接納「寂寞」。
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單身一人也可以尋到自己的興趣、人生目標、朋友圈子，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡYfSRjdeaGy
可以活得精彩，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡeoiDgOjzre
同時，單身也是可以寂寞的，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡIvjt7q3PvC
It's ok!327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ3A8uEEZql2
寂寞的原因因人而異，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡXhWLTZkREw
可能是因為沒有伴侶而失意，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ2x1iJhOsmO
也可能是因為不被支持、不被明白而寂寞，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡfik3Zu8mGD
但什麼寂寞的原因也好，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡdKGoNSdmuI
也是這句：It's ok!
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寂寞的感覺是令人不舒服和不安穩，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡgP6AOwhA6P
有點像浮於一片無盡的大海之中，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡR7I9BZx0E0
好像世界並無自己的立足之地，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡGHrMcrTd3h
這感覺是可怕的，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ7ykWrH0lOL
但這感覺並不是羞恥，並不是失敗。327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡFz8Z6NiJyt
每個人都會經歷過這種不佳的狀態，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ3Sq893QRSD
只差你敢不敢承認自己的渴望與脆弱。
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「情緒」需要被看見、被接納，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡJf3Rxa5YMO
一旦你可以開放內心去接納自己任何好與壞的情緒，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡmxr1POGWoo
切切感受那份「情緒」過後，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡn4niURSHpG
你學習到與「情緒」和平、安然共處，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡnjIAXDNgyA
「情緒」就不會再糾纏你，可以漸漸自然流去。
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「寂寞」並不可怕，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ0fzzvCHp2S
只要它來到時你不抗拒它，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡdNEbs7KzHf
不要故作沒事跟自己說：327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ3A98P2sjrB
我不可以寂寞。327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡ9awHYssZqz
也不要強硬地想一時三刻就能一手掃開「寂寞」，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡE0TkpmuaJj
愈抗拒它，它就愈存在。327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡGYw2OtvrMb
慢慢一步一步接納「寂寞」就是自己的一部分，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡvmzxQRHmPV
就會沒那麼難受。
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你是可以不OK的，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡmivJVjNUk7
你是可以寂寞的，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡcuRFwn1PhG
It's ok!327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡRmAYsWvm6e
你要學習面對自己的寂寞，327Please respect copyright.ＰＥＮＡＮＡsRxBP7Sq0M
也要容許自己有「做不到」的過程。
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