從一般人的理解入面,42Please respect copyright.PENANAzg2vIkql1u
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。42Please respect copyright.PENANASDZR2yLchQ
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不過,42Please respect copyright.PENANAIdPlSrHJVB
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,42Please respect copyright.PENANAMU59IOVN0J
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。42Please respect copyright.PENANAYMAdN3oMQG
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)42Please respect copyright.PENANAnZcvhdcIoR
經文來自約伯記16章4節:42Please respect copyright.PENANAEygmYIBzo3
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語42Please respect copyright.PENANAMHVrIeclGy
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」42Please respect copyright.PENANAfYgv1gJwi2
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約伯處身於苦難的當中,42Please respect copyright.PENANAhKya8Fekt6
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,42Please respect copyright.PENANAyek0f5N1iX
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,42Please respect copyright.PENANATvnmXeg1ZS
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。42Please respect copyright.PENANAysVUpOqAWT
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Message版就譯得更清楚:42Please respect copyright.PENANAQoCBKLkb9U
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」42Please respect copyright.PENANANl689tWOAb
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為何約伯感到極其失望?42Please respect copyright.PENANA2KIyIYAKtT
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,42Please respect copyright.PENANAUciuOy26aC
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,42Please respect copyright.PENANAsMLGVim1s4
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。42Please respect copyright.PENANALhJDcNkZ7K
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?42Please respect copyright.PENANAJttcfp66s7
42Please respect copyright.PENANAww2hWvFFKp
無論是信徒還是非信徒,42Please respect copyright.PENANA3XcETbrAeX
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,42Please respect copyright.PENANAXotYF9NAsP
亦是最難掌握的。42Please respect copyright.PENANA3Lo78VI3yr
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記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,42Please respect copyright.PENANAjApXJMnZFo
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,42Please respect copyright.PENANAsvs3DfE9Me
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,42Please respect copyright.PENANA8pPsNigFmW
卻是全部跳過忽略,42Please respect copyright.PENANA4OaQLO9qjR
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,42Please respect copyright.PENANAUnCo1TdSRr
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。42Please respect copyright.PENANAm2kbfLkhES
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多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,42Please respect copyright.PENANAmB6jPeNKuQ
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,42Please respect copyright.PENANAOZyB6NbxuW
它分為四個區域:42Please respect copyright.PENANAnZLyJ8sLrN
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)42Please respect copyright.PENANAh3cpIvtH7v
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)42Please respect copyright.PENANA9Gs5wZdfqx
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)42Please respect copyright.PENANAhkqJxSbNMG
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)42Please respect copyright.PENANA9MvKCNWsn0
42Please respect copyright.PENANA0WIl9BQvpY
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:42Please respect copyright.PENANAozd8OnHeIo
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?42Please respect copyright.PENANA6XGEDhS8Bq
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,42Please respect copyright.PENANAdRDPAAR6ta
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?42Please respect copyright.PENANAx93yHf49Jc
42Please respect copyright.PENANAgpK6OiZ450
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,42Please respect copyright.PENANA0zcFPpuVnv
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?42Please respect copyright.PENANAokcprp2oh2
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》42Please respect copyright.PENANAqvCUaobUM2
戀愛心理,第三回。