「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,16Please respect copyright.PENANAmIc4PDTojf
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,16Please respect copyright.PENANAo66evHJtIb
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。16Please respect copyright.PENANA2piRITlrGP
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,16Please respect copyright.PENANA4JzHOkqBub
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,16Please respect copyright.PENANAzvu8F2CPMM
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,16Please respect copyright.PENANAt2YIbnF2Op
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。16Please respect copyright.PENANAftmlY3voHn
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,16Please respect copyright.PENANAZi54o9Y3Nn
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。16Please respect copyright.PENANA9O3MXxX7pA
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。16Please respect copyright.PENANATpoQ90JtrX
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那隻驢子本來不用死,16Please respect copyright.PENANASVZx7lhODi
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。16Please respect copyright.PENANAwDOxaipoif
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,16Please respect copyright.PENANANd4Z9cVn6j
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,16Please respect copyright.PENANAgxNvNZde1Z
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,16Please respect copyright.PENANA4orISrBypU
以免自取其辱。16Please respect copyright.PENANAov1q7FyIdQ
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,16Please respect copyright.PENANAolZVHRDzxI
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,16Please respect copyright.PENANASFmbgz0rif
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,16Please respect copyright.PENANAQkiw0mflm8
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。16Please respect copyright.PENANAczdHUgDxRl
就算不是萍水相逢,16Please respect copyright.PENANAcP6SL8b30w
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,16Please respect copyright.PENANAZTiR4uMcPa
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。16Please respect copyright.PENANAixRrrteNUN
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,16Please respect copyright.PENANA6k736jAiww
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。16Please respect copyright.PENANAOhGoLnKl80
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,16Please respect copyright.PENANAUB8oqOmLti
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,16Please respect copyright.PENANAfRME2U6IZ5
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,16Please respect copyright.PENANAha0Im8hzo7
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,16Please respect copyright.PENANAHihDH4OvtG
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。16Please respect copyright.PENANAoT0p9yHFQU
其實,16Please respect copyright.PENANAfyH9nkkIfq
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,16Please respect copyright.PENANAHZEifs92zr
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。16Please respect copyright.PENANAGw23Wu9BRw
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,16Please respect copyright.PENANA70hhouMHPI
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,16Please respect copyright.PENANAtsiTpBXsIk
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,16Please respect copyright.PENANAedLfhKfXof
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,16Please respect copyright.PENANAWyuaDcBdhi
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,16Please respect copyright.PENANAKhf9snsKM4
即是「第一印象」,16Please respect copyright.PENANAEVoiJJmJfP
這些教導大家都會說得到。16Please respect copyright.PENANAPbxNfYUBdo
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但不約而同地,16Please respect copyright.PENANAJdMNeUV0ko
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,16Please respect copyright.PENANAS17brTqStO
不主動提及就視為不存在。16Please respect copyright.PENANAcmZjlIo5Wz
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,16Please respect copyright.PENANA4ZaGxe6LgT
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?16Please respect copyright.PENANABf5UsrfZ05
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,16Please respect copyright.PENANA72RHpTNQuf
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,16Please respect copyright.PENANA0N1GvxxV7C
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。16Please respect copyright.PENANASB54n6odiE
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,16Please respect copyright.PENANAgSbRLDpnt0
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,16Please respect copyright.PENANA8puhwGPyF4
這不是我胡亂杜撰。16Please respect copyright.PENANAsC2C9OQsyb
如此的話,16Please respect copyright.PENANADRAmJE7odr
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?16Please respect copyright.PENANAZG0gob9f2U
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,16Please respect copyright.PENANAtACypUPLMV
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。16Please respect copyright.PENANAeOdOWDomFt
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不過,16Please respect copyright.PENANAWpQ4iNBROJ
鍾仁宇更大的錯,16Please respect copyright.PENANAGUSmlyXwl1
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,16Please respect copyright.PENANAECrFWBTPnd
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,16Please respect copyright.PENANAf37epCtQU7
反而令到感情生活更豐富。16Please respect copyright.PENANAmZxgIv1DuO
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,16Please respect copyright.PENANA4P0RYC3U5x
又怎會落得被利用的下場?16Please respect copyright.PENANA5pdZYis009
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,16Please respect copyright.PENANAhSwvzShQjD
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,16Please respect copyright.PENANAD3ASyuyhj8
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,16Please respect copyright.PENANAlNsAmErFCR
我無十分認真看過這電影,16Please respect copyright.PENANAYMdWBnQ1Gb
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。16Please respect copyright.PENANAFDqi41BukV
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。16Please respect copyright.PENANABkt9ZOA15l
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讀者們,16Please respect copyright.PENANA287dEXf9r3
如果你是鍾仁宇,16Please respect copyright.PENANAgWyDhG2XrU
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?16Please respect copyright.PENANAtduWbwBkxj
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》16Please respect copyright.PENANAv7ZA1l0zQf
戀愛心理,第四回。