從一般人的理解入面,38Please respect copyright.PENANAWq5BwnEYpq
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。38Please respect copyright.PENANAk7dpRPDQIA
38Please respect copyright.PENANApp1vuQWmga
不過,38Please respect copyright.PENANAP4VlcHpyhG
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,38Please respect copyright.PENANA5oVYx4gQzG
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。38Please respect copyright.PENANAO6QoQSow9A
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)38Please respect copyright.PENANAJHhFjIU2lZ
經文來自約伯記16章4節:38Please respect copyright.PENANAqIwDojuygX
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語38Please respect copyright.PENANAw36JPFARyb
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」38Please respect copyright.PENANASCTyI2gYAH
38Please respect copyright.PENANAr8GEIGsKqh
約伯處身於苦難的當中,38Please respect copyright.PENANA4OUFBfawKD
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,38Please respect copyright.PENANAmoKmsMp5hj
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,38Please respect copyright.PENANA0sULAQdASN
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。38Please respect copyright.PENANA1v4TtDZN1C
38Please respect copyright.PENANAmdFQWQYwDl
Message版就譯得更清楚:38Please respect copyright.PENANAJ3KVYa0ase
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」38Please respect copyright.PENANAwx4ZD6hXsy
38Please respect copyright.PENANAk1J3EvwcOR
為何約伯感到極其失望?38Please respect copyright.PENANAjUyvNAcrGl
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,38Please respect copyright.PENANAmOISD4asgd
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,38Please respect copyright.PENANA8SyBx5nuPu
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。38Please respect copyright.PENANAIaTKJYf61v
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?38Please respect copyright.PENANAQl4QjDKLZF
38Please respect copyright.PENANAOVyHz9s8EN
無論是信徒還是非信徒,38Please respect copyright.PENANAM04F1wljzq
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,38Please respect copyright.PENANAfthWVsYPUI
亦是最難掌握的。38Please respect copyright.PENANAnI1oaRr2kB
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記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,38Please respect copyright.PENANApzua1TCd4F
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,38Please respect copyright.PENANAlazyCGs8Zy
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,38Please respect copyright.PENANAbHOw0RoD1z
卻是全部跳過忽略,38Please respect copyright.PENANAEqsTVKuruG
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,38Please respect copyright.PENANAd1RTzPiCEz
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。38Please respect copyright.PENANAjO5tTwkMbq
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多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,38Please respect copyright.PENANAF9E5pj6x91
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,38Please respect copyright.PENANALHWeeh7G07
它分為四個區域:38Please respect copyright.PENANAOZBz15odKw
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)38Please respect copyright.PENANA7JNtptwfMJ
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)38Please respect copyright.PENANAPOoWqcKyn5
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)38Please respect copyright.PENANAKWsdjVeZmn
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)38Please respect copyright.PENANAu0Qz8xtySC
38Please respect copyright.PENANALiN4AKzh28
當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:38Please respect copyright.PENANAYHv7sIzhBQ
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?38Please respect copyright.PENANAmSTsRuAqmd
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,38Please respect copyright.PENANA5E0IdTiDDI
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?38Please respect copyright.PENANAvVPDhSG7zV
38Please respect copyright.PENANA5NVeyMDuNU
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,38Please respect copyright.PENANAVc9BXdHK14
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?38Please respect copyright.PENANAfeQiC0JcCr
38Please respect copyright.PENANA0e6875NlDm
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》38Please respect copyright.PENANACHHgeaBXR7
戀愛心理,第三回。