「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,19Please respect copyright.PENANAK7FMPJ2B0L
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,19Please respect copyright.PENANA2U4P4nwesx
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。19Please respect copyright.PENANAixHFhWqm8G
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,19Please respect copyright.PENANAf7GEyfVIda
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,19Please respect copyright.PENANA7QHMomrXKz
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,19Please respect copyright.PENANAzBops9CElK
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。19Please respect copyright.PENANAbNRlWphSyo
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,19Please respect copyright.PENANAtgTRm0kFYE
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。19Please respect copyright.PENANApvF9Q302ie
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。19Please respect copyright.PENANAK3uvK2CDbO
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那隻驢子本來不用死,19Please respect copyright.PENANAUQ9itrKHgi
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。19Please respect copyright.PENANAqcki5JfnHh
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,19Please respect copyright.PENANAxWDeMkJAnx
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,19Please respect copyright.PENANALOnjQVuSSc
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,19Please respect copyright.PENANABhyPXIKZDv
以免自取其辱。19Please respect copyright.PENANA7cLbCeXmAp
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,19Please respect copyright.PENANA78ZqeBF5SH
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,19Please respect copyright.PENANABrgEy6Y7af
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,19Please respect copyright.PENANA2YVwSLrlwo
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。19Please respect copyright.PENANAW7Du5uwzNM
就算不是萍水相逢,19Please respect copyright.PENANAdA7ekJBEpI
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,19Please respect copyright.PENANAng2GMyfiOb
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。19Please respect copyright.PENANAVsa0I5YBp5
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,19Please respect copyright.PENANAIu8iYg953a
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。19Please respect copyright.PENANAvthnlkP2St
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,19Please respect copyright.PENANAf9j4uTlOWC
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,19Please respect copyright.PENANAqDkf3ml2Bh
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,19Please respect copyright.PENANAgTth5yZzGH
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,19Please respect copyright.PENANAI1noEZ7OHG
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。19Please respect copyright.PENANArikIyW2Pwk
其實,19Please respect copyright.PENANAYQavNDfdSM
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,19Please respect copyright.PENANAnCfUrzMnuY
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。19Please respect copyright.PENANAgZ5VXWGb6n
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,19Please respect copyright.PENANAu8wJhz9O9h
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,19Please respect copyright.PENANAeWnHP8P5P5
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,19Please respect copyright.PENANAe2LJQ6fBF2
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,19Please respect copyright.PENANASErDnTGdca
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,19Please respect copyright.PENANAxL5EcfBoh6
即是「第一印象」,19Please respect copyright.PENANA1EI133g7o8
這些教導大家都會說得到。19Please respect copyright.PENANAAy41JsBeIN
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但不約而同地,19Please respect copyright.PENANAhLTluBRyIY
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,19Please respect copyright.PENANANPsTBJo30h
不主動提及就視為不存在。19Please respect copyright.PENANAtFi2OC2AWz
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,19Please respect copyright.PENANAjlXwp5gIzc
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?19Please respect copyright.PENANA8I5mCgGysf
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,19Please respect copyright.PENANAwcxw1PgrR5
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,19Please respect copyright.PENANABXRbjaYtna
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。19Please respect copyright.PENANAVRL7OB3vai
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,19Please respect copyright.PENANAggmAlANKab
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,19Please respect copyright.PENANAG1FvPDvALn
這不是我胡亂杜撰。19Please respect copyright.PENANAI83sHvD8MZ
如此的話,19Please respect copyright.PENANAVPoL8ANFOW
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?19Please respect copyright.PENANA8FOaqLSoiN
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,19Please respect copyright.PENANAIOPT7cRVc4
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。19Please respect copyright.PENANAgnR3BrObwD
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不過,19Please respect copyright.PENANANgHPd9qCti
鍾仁宇更大的錯,19Please respect copyright.PENANAAqlU7NNlp1
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,19Please respect copyright.PENANA2In8SwAPTn
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,19Please respect copyright.PENANApOhPvXVNUi
反而令到感情生活更豐富。19Please respect copyright.PENANAkqilymBhKA
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,19Please respect copyright.PENANAp64wH0FB2Z
又怎會落得被利用的下場?19Please respect copyright.PENANAr4FvvBCML8
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,19Please respect copyright.PENANApoYTW8bWOT
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,19Please respect copyright.PENANAvuY2NKUvQI
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,19Please respect copyright.PENANABz5x1FYage
我無十分認真看過這電影,19Please respect copyright.PENANAu1nj62djTT
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。19Please respect copyright.PENANA95D2SzwmgG
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。19Please respect copyright.PENANA6jv3lolmXK
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讀者們,19Please respect copyright.PENANApDVvGhtdpG
如果你是鍾仁宇,19Please respect copyright.PENANACgaj44K4Hc
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?19Please respect copyright.PENANAFzJSmdq41r
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》19Please respect copyright.PENANAGyE1SjucR5
戀愛心理,第四回。