從一般人的理解入面,40Please respect copyright.PENANALogk1xf9aS
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。40Please respect copyright.PENANAaSAaQiutqD
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不過,40Please respect copyright.PENANAkV6rXJSSED
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,40Please respect copyright.PENANAiJIXKmcbGk
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。40Please respect copyright.PENANA6AKKZFYJPn
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)40Please respect copyright.PENANA0xLXNFnEQH
經文來自約伯記16章4節:40Please respect copyright.PENANAPa6B2DfesB
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語40Please respect copyright.PENANASfn6t2Nzgl
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」40Please respect copyright.PENANAmvivrDoeMc
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約伯處身於苦難的當中,40Please respect copyright.PENANAAsBqHUJ1RO
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,40Please respect copyright.PENANAfZwcUBqKEa
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,40Please respect copyright.PENANASM4oNNZuzY
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。40Please respect copyright.PENANAk2ZZjehfI1
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Message版就譯得更清楚:40Please respect copyright.PENANAiiwBidfOgN
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」40Please respect copyright.PENANAqmch6C1uF1
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為何約伯感到極其失望?40Please respect copyright.PENANA8dK2Dj5De9
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,40Please respect copyright.PENANArHOBiIlKNQ
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,40Please respect copyright.PENANAwOyBY7nEVP
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。40Please respect copyright.PENANAMNRxYOWWJB
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?40Please respect copyright.PENANAERasrD9ouH
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無論是信徒還是非信徒,40Please respect copyright.PENANAKmSBoJeMyp
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,40Please respect copyright.PENANAC8dhb3IH66
亦是最難掌握的。40Please respect copyright.PENANA1ZNBWt85oE
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記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,40Please respect copyright.PENANA7GGbBJNGeX
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,40Please respect copyright.PENANAkqhLAnCDFG
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,40Please respect copyright.PENANAvWKe8FbEMk
卻是全部跳過忽略,40Please respect copyright.PENANAMFSOLNEZw5
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,40Please respect copyright.PENANAAJ5i9GGMa7
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。40Please respect copyright.PENANArcwyTlRoTo
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多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,40Please respect copyright.PENANAEeULuBYRIA
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,40Please respect copyright.PENANAimb9Z5W8cD
它分為四個區域:40Please respect copyright.PENANAlstVP2fgk1
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)40Please respect copyright.PENANAVfpyGDtKjT
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)40Please respect copyright.PENANABvSa6I3LAB
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)40Please respect copyright.PENANAf4QgqIfLFi
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)40Please respect copyright.PENANA7ljH48sUBK
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當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:40Please respect copyright.PENANAueRLmTtU2A
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?40Please respect copyright.PENANA2f3x6cCnXU
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,40Please respect copyright.PENANAZWQ3Tr4HAW
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?40Please respect copyright.PENANA9okNnbGdrD
40Please respect copyright.PENANAXHsjcEdRFC
但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,40Please respect copyright.PENANAhImg7xSLmM
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?40Please respect copyright.PENANA3XpJQiwAmh
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》40Please respect copyright.PENANABT23TNkHy5
戀愛心理,第三回。