「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,17Please respect copyright.PENANAL0VSMreXWr
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,17Please respect copyright.PENANAOTdHTMnBuf
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。17Please respect copyright.PENANAMC1lznQKqf
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,17Please respect copyright.PENANAs610PjrfDl
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,17Please respect copyright.PENANAnEpmB9ukiM
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,17Please respect copyright.PENANAGUlz6smfYn
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。17Please respect copyright.PENANAZPHE53IpHv
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,17Please respect copyright.PENANAYFFPW0Ydjh
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。17Please respect copyright.PENANAT6KoMs6DiP
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。17Please respect copyright.PENANA43JJOBRT9I
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那隻驢子本來不用死,17Please respect copyright.PENANAy8e3fCcZRx
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。17Please respect copyright.PENANAuHInsCKtK5
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,17Please respect copyright.PENANAuqtPOomuA9
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,17Please respect copyright.PENANAFXiZ4RdQay
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,17Please respect copyright.PENANALuVuYSh2G1
以免自取其辱。17Please respect copyright.PENANABf6keovZKD
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,17Please respect copyright.PENANAdjOTIBeDnr
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,17Please respect copyright.PENANANd5r8q1KfH
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,17Please respect copyright.PENANAdJZAtYnwZ9
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。17Please respect copyright.PENANAmbRdJ4f024
就算不是萍水相逢,17Please respect copyright.PENANAEg1ygmFdOq
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,17Please respect copyright.PENANARjuoisyKps
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。17Please respect copyright.PENANA9AUsrSvqwI
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,17Please respect copyright.PENANAwDK2Djmm98
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。17Please respect copyright.PENANAhpmrTPhKbT
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,17Please respect copyright.PENANAej6O7zdmzL
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,17Please respect copyright.PENANARe349gig39
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,17Please respect copyright.PENANAyCXF96DuxC
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,17Please respect copyright.PENANABYlHz6a1ha
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。17Please respect copyright.PENANAVs02mcGHab
其實,17Please respect copyright.PENANAFTd06n1mjU
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,17Please respect copyright.PENANAcTTaov3zFE
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。17Please respect copyright.PENANAxI03kS9uTV
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,17Please respect copyright.PENANA0m1qdehrIF
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,17Please respect copyright.PENANAU5cZX7ZMUX
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,17Please respect copyright.PENANAEaYMhVdDvN
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,17Please respect copyright.PENANAssOI9cSI7E
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,17Please respect copyright.PENANAldE1UsjZkt
即是「第一印象」,17Please respect copyright.PENANANIWa2HfqhW
這些教導大家都會說得到。17Please respect copyright.PENANAfoebV5OeSN
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但不約而同地,17Please respect copyright.PENANAwr1m9sze31
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,17Please respect copyright.PENANA9rTa3WI6IL
不主動提及就視為不存在。17Please respect copyright.PENANAJdqq6X0OMr
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,17Please respect copyright.PENANAjq7RYUivSi
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?17Please respect copyright.PENANAnGlcDJUhTX
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,17Please respect copyright.PENANAVwrn0VaeOF
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,17Please respect copyright.PENANAHVCFQOd11G
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。17Please respect copyright.PENANATVOZkYL2J3
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,17Please respect copyright.PENANAjCpxbfKbmZ
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,17Please respect copyright.PENANAn2a1joIysU
這不是我胡亂杜撰。17Please respect copyright.PENANARWqcOsvOGs
如此的話,17Please respect copyright.PENANAJ8RvwjZfAL
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?17Please respect copyright.PENANA4obveJZhD7
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,17Please respect copyright.PENANApYmJ4pqnZw
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。17Please respect copyright.PENANAgb3grVwIu3
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不過,17Please respect copyright.PENANAbqJArG2rCK
鍾仁宇更大的錯,17Please respect copyright.PENANA8KwwjS4HTL
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,17Please respect copyright.PENANA7NRGci63zB
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,17Please respect copyright.PENANAR29CLPHeqA
反而令到感情生活更豐富。17Please respect copyright.PENANA9MV7awXnB5
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,17Please respect copyright.PENANAfxHuxmu9ni
又怎會落得被利用的下場?17Please respect copyright.PENANAIEKDkyZ1iC
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,17Please respect copyright.PENANABXn5lf02kG
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,17Please respect copyright.PENANA6N8CDMcPjZ
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,17Please respect copyright.PENANALDy1Oi6Ho2
我無十分認真看過這電影,17Please respect copyright.PENANAafc13cWcT8
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。17Please respect copyright.PENANA5hBfgbBnj5
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。17Please respect copyright.PENANAYNmYDYjnT8
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讀者們,17Please respect copyright.PENANAXbslXhZi2A
如果你是鍾仁宇,17Please respect copyright.PENANAXO7KSncSHG
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?17Please respect copyright.PENANAk5FWKtApzM
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》17Please respect copyright.PENANAze3u4DUxZy
戀愛心理,第四回。