從一般人的理解入面,41Please respect copyright.PENANAXN00YsGsmS
「搖頭」這兩個字是表示對事情不同意的看法。41Please respect copyright.PENANABHPJ6m8kFz
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不過,41Please respect copyright.PENANAaZWrOXrfUE
在舊約聖經《約伯記》入面,41Please respect copyright.PENANAcXJnokDRPJ
「搖頭」這兩字有「鄙視」的意思。41Please respect copyright.PENANAiW20EkxXXR
(另參王下19:21;詩22:8;104:25;賽37:21;哀2:15)41Please respect copyright.PENANAz77j7HInah
經文來自約伯記16章4節:41Please respect copyright.PENANAnVJxzi2iLQ
「我也能說你們那樣的話。你們若處在我的境遇,我也會聯絡言語41Please respect copyright.PENANAMB9VQwVo4g
攻擊你們,又能向你們搖頭。」41Please respect copyright.PENANAmj6zPlaGe2
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約伯處身於苦難的當中,41Please respect copyright.PENANA8MCgr8Bl8k
本來約伯期望他的三位朋友能夠理解及明白,41Please respect copyright.PENANAjPab6xRgFf
但很可惜他的朋友只指控他犯罪,說一些無關痛癢的說話,41Please respect copyright.PENANAS4ucYysvjp
令約伯更加孤單及痛苦。41Please respect copyright.PENANAykj1C4nMmf
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Message版就譯得更清楚:41Please respect copyright.PENANAZYY46RvakL
「If you were in my shoes, I could talk just like you.」41Please respect copyright.PENANArNWFoVOcMX
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為何約伯感到極其失望?41Please respect copyright.PENANAyG5CgN1S5o
因為這些朋友not in my shoes,即是不能設身處地與受苦者同行,41Please respect copyright.PENANAu5XtrSGCVq
反而說一些「阿媽係女人」的說話、說教批評,41Please respect copyright.PENANAp1j6QjWC5P
大家的channel根本完全不同,所以朋友的安慰令受苦者更受創傷。41Please respect copyright.PENANAE11ziVCPiB
對於朋友們廉價的安慰,約伯又豈能不「鄙視」呢?41Please respect copyright.PENANAGCgVoYyCWo
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無論是信徒還是非信徒,41Please respect copyright.PENANAoStrWs5xkq
同理心 (empathy) (或易地而處) 是人與人之間相處最重要的功課,41Please respect copyright.PENANAoRkfxYQOks
亦是最難掌握的。41Please respect copyright.PENANAfPGiTAyttL
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記得我多年前讀主日學讀到約伯記的時候,41Please respect copyright.PENANAXKmQO6ZXPu
導師曾提過很多信徒只會記得約伯記第1章及第42章,41Please respect copyright.PENANAEQ7KiFRf6Z
但中間約伯及三個朋友 (以利法、比勒達及瑣法) 對苦難理解的爭辯,41Please respect copyright.PENANArqvwQOILSq
卻是全部跳過忽略,41Please respect copyright.PENANA48qXBBDwP6
然而中間接近40章才是約伯記的精粹,41Please respect copyright.PENANAZ2t7jsacfc
即使我曾讀過相關書卷但仍然不太明白。41Please respect copyright.PENANAUEAaG0FfwP
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多個月以前我曾經參與過有關認識自己的活動,41Please respect copyright.PENANAWiJuPpdMYA
主持人簡介了一個名為「Johari Window」的心理學概念,41Please respect copyright.PENANA0XFx6MarCc
它分為四個區域:41Please respect copyright.PENANASpmu1D2uSd
a. 「開放區」(對方及自己都知道自己有面具)41Please respect copyright.PENANAl4r4cYXj8t
b. 「盲點區」(對方知道自己有面具,但自己不知道)41Please respect copyright.PENANARsEzmVfovD
c. 「隱藏區」(對方不知道自己有面具,而自己是知道)41Please respect copyright.PENANAVTzWgxVAxo
d. 「未知區」(對方及自己都不知道自己有面具) (即只有神知道)41Please respect copyright.PENANACmcBnw7Qhn
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當時主持人是建議增加「開放區」的比例。
坐在台下的我,心生疑問:41Please respect copyright.PENANAx26shhfea9
a. 究竟對方對自己的「開放」有多大的承受能力?41Please respect copyright.PENANAUDbu1ljzOf
b. 自己又可以做到多「開放」?若然對方未必接受到,41Please respect copyright.PENANAc5SXK8Pc0M
增加「開放區」比例又是否另一種折磨?41Please respect copyright.PENANAad6tZncqrN
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但若然放在欲進入戀愛世界的鍾仁宇而言,41Please respect copyright.PENANAoKlaGnpfg2
「開放區」是祝福,還是詛咒?41Please respect copyright.PENANAaGUZefqQBK
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《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》41Please respect copyright.PENANAY3Vgva7E9c
戀愛心理,第三回。