「獻醜不如藏拙」的典故,18Please respect copyright.PENANAPoAIA2Qs4Z
出自唐代詩人柳宗元《柳河東集.三戒.黔之驢》。
故事內容是貴州地方本來沒有驢,18Please respect copyright.PENANAISGqmaDjBa
後來有人用船將驢運到這地方及將驢運到山下。18Please respect copyright.PENANAT9IagNoBLq
有一隻老虎看到驢的時候,見到身體強壯、不鳴又不叫,以為是神物,18Please respect copyright.PENANAHqesexs0kv
牠只是躱在遠方樹林間遠遠觀察,始終摸不清那隻驢的底細。
有一天驢忽然大叫,老虎便很害怕而躱得遠遠,18Please respect copyright.PENANAZy9VGrdRD6
後來反覆地觀察下發現原來驢沒有特殊本領,開始適應驢的叫聲,18Please respect copyright.PENANAZC9TmcA1ez
在驢附近走動的次數愈來愈多,也走得愈來愈近。18Please respect copyright.PENANADkBU8vVYdy
老虎忍不住嘗試撞向驢子,惹得驢子大怒而反擊,18Please respect copyright.PENANAxu4j48QHV5
但被老虎看穿了不外如是。18Please respect copyright.PENANANXApHBr8xp
終於有一次驢子避不開被老虎吃掉的命運。18Please respect copyright.PENANA65VhM8Wpje
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那隻驢子本來不用死,18Please respect copyright.PENANAnAbzCGa767
但因為顯露了自己的弱點,而被老虎盯上了。18Please respect copyright.PENANA2icCvSV6tJ
若然不展示自身有限的本事,老虎根本不會有機會將自己吃掉,18Please respect copyright.PENANA6mgbfsel3O
這結局可算是十分悲慘。
如果放回今日的情境裡,18Please respect copyright.PENANAhtgABZu7xw
若然自己缺乏應付對手的本領,那就不要將自己的才技一覽無遺地展示出來,18Please respect copyright.PENANA8yzcxvBRpr
以免自取其辱。18Please respect copyright.PENANANIXeKZDFnq
然而,這道理不但是職場裡,情場裡也更加適用,18Please respect copyright.PENANAqGRa3cHREp
當我們無法完全估算到曖昧對象的底蘊,18Please respect copyright.PENANACifcMqL85D
不顧一切將自己「不完美」的一面展露在一個萍水相逢的對象面前,18Please respect copyright.PENANAjl44bKsVkx
無疑與故事中的驢子一樣十分危險。18Please respect copyright.PENANAjtTtavKpsu
就算不是萍水相逢,18Please respect copyright.PENANAwpvde2Tt6Y
但將來無人可以保證關係不會變質,18Please respect copyright.PENANAIXIl72i5pp
所以百份百坦誠的戀人關係是不存在,亦不理想。18Please respect copyright.PENANAwBR45fRYMk
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「獻醜不如藏拙」的前提,18Please respect copyright.PENANA8Wc4HcXd4Y
乃是弱點有「地方」可以收藏。18Please respect copyright.PENANAo50lrLvWzK
但,鍾仁宇的禿頭呢?
鍾仁宇的錯,錯在天真,18Please respect copyright.PENANAyqMzzrDOJX
錯在無將自己的缺陷永久隱藏,或者無刻意去處理自己的缺陷,18Please respect copyright.PENANAFHq4QIjng9
錯在以為自己與電影《情留半天》的男主角一樣,18Please respect copyright.PENANAtAw8Ek8oyp
在火車入面與完全無見面的陌生女子展開了極深度的對話,18Please respect copyright.PENANAanIzhwKpjm
以為展露弱點就可以拉近距離。18Please respect copyright.PENANAb1cASWAveJ
其實,18Please respect copyright.PENANA4UXeLMyEm7
鍾仁宇不是無內在優點,18Please respect copyright.PENANA9VR8Fab0NF
而是赤裸裸地面對著現實的問題。18Please respect copyright.PENANAs2ZVGiyJuB
當情場裡有其他選擇的時候 ,18Please respect copyright.PENANAZbbFSpMfWG
他這類人還有多少的吸引力,足以讓對方不變心?
每一個人都會有缺點,18Please respect copyright.PENANAlj2xGD6Is4
香港不少兩性關係相處的書、IG,特別是交友配對的專頁,18Please respect copyright.PENANAKeyD0VHxBJ
都會建議第一次約會或者參加交友活動前處理自己的外表,18Please respect copyright.PENANALB6sc2qTIj
又或者去改善自己的弱點,以致給到一個好的印象,18Please respect copyright.PENANAMsxiSJlLEc
即是「第一印象」,18Please respect copyright.PENANAdxRAGTEwG0
這些教導大家都會說得到。18Please respect copyright.PENANAO09hc7y7nv
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但不約而同地,18Please respect copyright.PENANAnGWrriVtIr
對於被禿頭「年輕化」困擾的人,他們很明顯地忽略了,18Please respect copyright.PENANAJQkELSVn8n
不主動提及就視為不存在。18Please respect copyright.PENANAFVdIiWINlj
如果真愛是不附帶任何條件的話,18Please respect copyright.PENANAinA3glTYYO
為何唯獨只有「禿頭」會令到自身變得更討厭、更令到約會對象避之則吉?18Please respect copyright.PENANAqwp7qDgH3x
只要在google鍵入「禿頭」、「擇偶」,18Please respect copyright.PENANA5sWGzml45M
就會見到「禿頭」的人如同鬼魅一樣,18Please respect copyright.PENANAyJTYuGhS10
比起其他有外表缺陷的人更被對方視為異類。18Please respect copyright.PENANAiYaGLNVLfv
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我在「作者前言」這部份已經貼出了統計數字,18Please respect copyright.PENANAAT91abN34e
「禿頭」比起其他身體缺陷更不為異性接受,18Please respect copyright.PENANAvt3QVZd3MA
這不是我胡亂杜撰。18Please respect copyright.PENANAdsmcKq2vpw
如此的話,18Please respect copyright.PENANA2vnQu4b124
「真愛」這兩字還適不適用在禿頭的人身上?18Please respect copyright.PENANAKtQp2vKbG5
不單是小說裡的鍾仁宇,18Please respect copyright.PENANA7Doo9brhwH
而是香港這社會裡每一個受著禿頭困擾的年輕人都需要面對。18Please respect copyright.PENANArCZtrrXl5G
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不過,18Please respect copyright.PENANAytX8OXyFGX
鍾仁宇更大的錯,18Please respect copyright.PENANAEaqJsxf3n8
卻是從來不知道禿頭比起其他身體缺陷更加不為異性所接受,18Please respect copyright.PENANAOn0uA7m0R3
反觀鍾仁宇的同事有性方面的問題,另一半從來都不知道,18Please respect copyright.PENANAb3OsJFFmfL
反而令到感情生活更豐富。18Please respect copyright.PENANAPPQb9JYytl
「…等我贈多你哋兩句啦,有好多嘢的確係可以講得好清楚比另一半知,包括個人弱點、難堪……但係你『講唔講』同埋『想唔想講』係兩回事。」
若然鍾仁宇懂得隱藏自己的弱點,18Please respect copyright.PENANAA7xO2REYPM
又怎會落得被利用的下場?18Please respect copyright.PENANAM3CgZEgAeD
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今年年頭開始寫這作品時,18Please respect copyright.PENANAuY9pIGHFxR
我在某個電影的影評IG看到《情留半天》的影評,18Please respect copyright.PENANAUtlKkCFRpB
其後又在某作家的報章專欄又談到這電影,18Please respect copyright.PENANAfvPZLO4ioV
我無十分認真看過這電影,18Please respect copyright.PENANAsHQ6P3ib4k
單看影評我已覺得不值得看。18Please respect copyright.PENANAokFPUzUH7O
不是因為什麼,而是覺得劇情唔make sense。18Please respect copyright.PENANARBQXKU9IUu
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讀者們,18Please respect copyright.PENANA1UBASG1uFt
如果你是鍾仁宇,18Please respect copyright.PENANAS423gQLuzr
你會選擇坦誠相告嗎?18Please respect copyright.PENANAJDdSGqMRpE
《愛情來過半分鐘也沒有》18Please respect copyright.PENANA6ohllseblA
戀愛心理,第四回。