送葬可一點都不簡單，裡面的學問很深，有很多的禁忌：
一、忌諱回頭看
送葬是出殯的意思，農村有人過世都會在家裡辦三天，然後才送上山，叫出殯或出喪，也就是把遺體抬到山上安葬的過程。
而農村有規矩說，下葬好後，參與送葬的人不要回頭看，聽到任何聲音或叫自己的名字都不要回頭。
因為，在一般的送葬隊伍中，很少出現大聲喧嘩的情況，在這種極為嚴肅的場合中，就算真的有要緊事，也會走在跟前訴說，所以，送葬過程中身後出現有人喊你 的名字，就需要小心謹慎了，可能逝者與你有什麼未能了結的心願！
我曾經遇到過這樣的事情，一個孩子的姑姑吊死在了家中，送殯的時候，孩子就听見姑姑在他耳邊叫喊自己的名字，那孩子沒有多想，就將頭轉了過去， 隨後，就看見姑姑那張慘絕人寰的臉！
當天夜裡，那孩子也在姑姑吊死的房樑上，懸樑自盡了！
這是一件真事，至今我都記憶猶新，如果家中有女人懸樑自盡，非要帶走一個的話，侄子就是它的第一選擇！
針對這件事情，後面會慢慢給各位講述，讓我們回到當下送葬的禁忌上~
親人過世本就是一件悲痛的事情，而下葬是葬禮的最後一個程序，逝者入土這一生就算走完了。
送完親人最後一程，回頭再看到親人的墳堆難免感傷悲痛欲絕，又喚起往事，影響人們的情緒。
不回頭也有一個科學的說法，是為了提醒人們，逝者已逝，節哀順變，釋懷親人去世的事情，繼續好好活著，而不是沉浸在過往的悲痛中無法自拔。
二、忌諱從原路回來
不但不能回頭，送葬完還不能從原路回來。
之所以不讓，是覺得走原路會帶回不好的情緒，影響以後的生活。
也有的地方則說，不走原路的原因是人們覺得，不原路返回蘊意死後成佛，因為佛不走回頭路。
不過因為各地習俗不一樣，有的朋友說，在他們那邊送葬回來，逝者的子女子孫則都要從原路回來，不能走其他路。
在我這邊，送葬的人不論老幼，不論直系關係，都不能走回頭路，若是原路返回，就會黴運纏身！
三、送葬完畢主人家不送客
農村送葬還是挺早的，有的人早餐都沒吃，送完回來正好可以吃午飯，主人家也會帶著幫忙的客人到家裡吃飯。
吃完飯整個喪事就算是辦好了，客人們也會選擇回家，這時主人家不能送客，客人們也不會怪罪主人家不懂禮貌什麼的。
要知道，按照農村的待客之道，客人走時，主人家要送客人出門的，客人出門也要目送，直到看不見，以表誠意。
但送葬喪事，客人離開主人家則不能送。
個人覺得原因可能是客人的不好意思，主人家有親人去世本就是很傷心的事，辦喪事基本上睡不好吃不好，終於辦好了，當然不耽誤主人家休息，自然不用送。
農村之所以不送客，可能也是不想把逝去親人的壞情緒帶給其他人，所以不送。
針對這一點，其實就是所謂的人情世故而已。
四、送葬後要在主人家洗澡才能回家
有些地方則是說，送葬後客人要在主人家洗個澡才能回家，才能進自己家門。
但是我老家倒是沒有這個習俗，如果真的要遵循這個習俗，那就亂了套了。
在我們那邊，送葬完進家門要跳火盆的。
人們覺得喪事是不好的，為了甩掉這種不好的情緒，需要一些儀式來去除。
其實很多地方都沒有強制性，而是自願，忌諱的人可以進家門前跳一下火盆，自己心裡舒服些，不忌諱的該吃吃該喝喝也沒啥問題。
五、不帶鑰匙送葬
有些地方則是有不能帶鑰匙送葬、出殯的習俗，在我老家有習俗說，逝者害怕鐵的東西，所以送葬的人腰間都不允許戴鑰匙。
不同的地區有不同的習俗，這一點可以不作為參考的依據。
河南有個別地區還有一個習俗，把老人埋葬後，返回主人家翻一下主人門口準備好的菜刀，意思是說去喪葬的人與死人一刀兩斷。
但這種說法，在我這邊是不存在的，此說法還是我的一位同行告訴我的，所以趁這個機會為各位增添一點樂子。
以上說的幾點是送葬最常見的忌諱，一些比較兇險的禁忌，我會在後文中講到。
這次我與父親做的是絕子墳，所以主家之人由孩子的舅舅來代替。
我們嚴格遵守這些習俗，將一家人的棺木抬到了墓園之中。
接下來做的就是下葬的事宜。
由於孩子尚小，意外離世，陽間的許多福分都沒有享受到，所以我在兩個孩子的坑道裡，鋪滿了五色糧以及六枚銅錢，讓孩子到了陰間，依舊可以填飽肚子，在 陽間沒有受完的福祿，可以在陰間繼續享用。
兩位大人的棺木中，我分別放入了金銀首飾，目的是為了讓死者在陰間有賄賂陰差的本錢。
坑道裡，我撒了公雞血以及江米，防止有陰邪之氣侵入棺材內部，也防止棺中之人作惡從而鑽出棺材。
“下棺！”
四口棺材全部按照我的指示進行擺放，很快就在墓坑之中排成了一排，看起來很是整齊。
我跳在棺木之上，在每一口的棺槨蓋上擺放鑽過孔的青碗，並在兩位大人的棺蓋上擺上半彎弓，弓弦上擺放三支箭（用秸稈代替） ，隨後用瓦片扣到棺材上面。
弓箭起到鎮陰作用，一旦出現鬼物對死者不敬，死者便可以用弓箭射之。
同樣，棺中死者想要出棺做出對他人不利之事的時候，棺蓋上的弓就會將其射殺！
這半彎弓看似小巧，卻扮演了至關重要的角色！
瓦片起到的作用是為了讓後人有房住吧，形容人窮一般都說上無片瓦遮身，下無立錐之地。
雖然，他們家中已經沒有後人了，但是為了給下一世累積福報，這個環節是萬萬不能省略的。
我拿出牽魂鎖，將四口棺材全部連接在一起，也就算讓一家人團聚了（具體如何連接的，不方便細說，可自行進行理解，因為害怕有朋友自己嘗試，因操作不當而 引起不必要的麻煩！
“禮成！”
我回到路面上，扯著嗓子喊了一句，所有的忙人都開始忙碌起來，往墓坑之中填土。
等到墓坑中的土全部填平之後，我與父親以及眾人離開了墓地，整個墓地之中，只留下挖坑填土的忙人，隨後我撥通了孩子舅舅的電話，告訴他可以開始 啟程了。
不一會兒功夫，孩子的舅舅就騎著電動三輪車出現在了地裡，為各位挖坑填土的忙人散煙，並為他們送上錢財，替死者感謝他們的辛勤付出。
不僅如此，孩子的舅舅還拿來了好酒好菜，讓幾位壯漢象徵性的吃了幾口。
二兩白酒下肚後，幾位壯漢開始了最後一道工序，圓墳！
二十分鐘後，一個大大的墳包出現在眾人眼中。
那墳包上故意留一個空缺，沒有填充上泥土，這個空缺是留給孩子的舅舅填充的。
未來的三天，舅舅都會來祭拜逝者，每祭拜一次，就要圓一次墳包，等到第三天之時，那個空缺就會被完全填上，所有的下葬步驟也就此完成了。
Funeral is not simple at all. There is a lot of knowledge involved and there are many taboos:
1. Taboo looking back
Funeral means funeral. In rural areas, when someone dies, the body will be held at home for three days before being sent to the mountain. It is called a funeral or burial, which is the process of carrying the body to the mountain for burial.
There is a rule in rural areas that after the burial, those attending the funeral should not look back, and should not look back if they hear any sound or their name is called.
Because, in general funeral processions, there are rarely loud noises. In this extremely serious occasion, even if there is something really important, you will walk in front and tell it. Therefore, during the funeral process, someone behind you calls you You need to be careful with your name, because the deceased may have some unresolved wishes with you!
I once encountered such a thing. A child's aunt was hanged at home. During the funeral, the child heard his aunt calling his name in his ear. The child turned his head away without thinking much, and then , and saw my aunt’s miserable face!
That night, the child also hanged himself on the beam of the house where his aunt had hanged himself!
This is a real thing, and I still remember it fresh. If a woman hangs herself from a beam in the family, and she has to take one away, her nephew will be her first choice!
Regarding this matter, I will slowly tell you about it later, let us return to the current taboos on funerals~
The death of a loved one is a sad event, and burial is the last step of the funeral. The deceased's life is over when he is buried.
After sending off the last journey of a loved one, looking back and seeing the grave of the loved one will inevitably make you feel sad and sad, and it will evoke the past and affect people's emotions.
There is also a scientific saying of not looking back, which is to remind people that the deceased has passed away, to grieve and accept the change, to let go of the death of their loved ones, and to continue living well, instead of being immersed in the sorrow of the past and unable to extricate themselves.
2. It is taboo to return from the original route
Not only can't you turn back, but you can't come back the same way after the funeral.
The reason why I refused was that I felt that taking the original path would bring back bad emotions and affect my future life.
In other places, it is said that the reason for not taking the original path is that people think that not returning to the original path means becoming a Buddha after death, because the Buddha will not turn back.
However, because customs vary from place to place, some friends said that when returning from a funeral, the children and grandchildren of the deceased in their place must return the same way they came from, and cannot take any other way.
As far as I'm concerned, funeral mourners, young and old, regardless of direct relationship, cannot turn back. If they go back the same way, they will be plagued with bad luck!
3. After the funeral, the host does not see the guests off
Funerals in rural areas are quite early, and some people don't even eat breakfast. They come back just in time to have lunch. The host's family will also bring guests to help them to eat at home.
After dinner, even if the whole funeral is done, the guests will choose to go home. At this time, the host cannot see the guests off, and the guests will not blame the host for being rude or anything.
You know, according to the way of hospitality in rural areas, when a guest leaves, the host has to see the guest out, and the guest has to watch him off until he is out of sight to show his sincerity.
However, for funerals, guests cannot leave the host's house without leaving.
Personally, I think the reason may be the guest's embarrassment. It is very sad for the host to have a relative die. Basically, it is hard to sleep well and eat well during the funeral. Finally, it is done. Of course, it will not delay the host's rest, so there is no need to send it off.
The reason why people in rural areas do not see off guests may be because they do not want to bring the bad emotions of their deceased relatives to other people, so they do not see them off.
Regarding this point, it is actually just the so-called worldliness.
4. After the funeral, you must take a shower at the host’s house before going home.
In some places, it is said that after the funeral, guests must take a bath at the host's house before returning home and entering their own home.
But my hometown does not have this custom. If we really want to follow this custom, it will be a mess.
In our place, people have to jump into the brazier after entering the house after the funeral.
People think that funerals are bad, and in order to get rid of this bad emotion, some rituals are needed to get rid of it.
In fact, in many places, it is not mandatory, but voluntary. People who are taboo can jump on the brazier in front of the house to make themselves feel better. People who are not taboo can eat and drink as they please, and there is no problem.
5. Funeral without keys
In some places, there is a custom that you cannot bring keys to funerals or funerals. In my hometown, there is a custom that the deceased is afraid of iron objects, so mourners are not allowed to wear keys around their waists.
Different regions have different customs, which need not be used as a reference.
In some areas of Henan, there is a custom that after burying an old man, he returns to the host's house and turns over the kitchen knife prepared at the host's door, which means that the person going to the funeral is cut off from the dead person.
But this statement does not exist here. This statement was told to me by one of my colleagues, so I will take this opportunity to add a little fun to you.
The points mentioned above are the most common taboos about funerals. I will talk about some more dangerous taboos in the following article.
This time my father and I made the grave of Juezi, so the head of the family was replaced by the child’s uncle.
We strictly adhered to these customs and carried the family's coffins to the cemetery.
The next thing to do is the burial.
Because the children were still young and passed away unexpectedly, they did not enjoy many blessings in the human world, so I filled the tunnels of the two children with five-color grains and six copper coins, so that the children could still fill their stomachs when they went to the underworld. The blessings that have not been fully received in the human world can be continued to be enjoyed in the underworld.
I put gold and silver jewelry in the coffins of the two adults respectively, so that the deceased could have the capital to bribe evil spirits in the underworld.
In the tunnel, I sprinkled rooster blood and glutinous rice to prevent evil spirits from invading the inside of the coffin, and to prevent the people in the coffin from doing evil and getting out of the coffin.
"Get off the coffin!"
All four coffins were placed according to my instructions, and they were quickly lined up in the grave pit, looking very neat.
I jumped on top of the coffins and placed green bowls with holes drilled on the coffin lids of each coffin. I also placed half-curved bows on the coffin lids of the two adults, and placed three arrows on the bow strings (replaced with straw). , and then fasten it to the coffin with tiles.
Bows and arrows play a calming role. Once a ghost appears and disrespects the deceased, the deceased can shoot it with a bow and arrow.
Similarly, if the deceased in the coffin wants to come out of the coffin and do something harmful to others, the bow on the coffin lid will kill him!
This half-curved bow may seem small, but it plays a vital role!
The role of tiles is to provide a house for future generations. To describe people who are poor, it is generally said that there are no tiles to cover the body, and there is no place to stand below.
Although there are no descendants in their family, in order to accumulate blessings for the next life, this link must not be omitted.
I took out the soul lock and connected all four coffins together, which reunited the family (it is not convenient to explain in detail how to connect them, but you can understand it by yourself, because I am afraid that some friends will try it on their own and get injured due to improper operation). Cause unnecessary trouble!
"It's done!"
I returned to the road and shouted at the top of my lungs, and all the busy people started to fill the grave pit with soil.
After all the soil in the grave pit was filled, my father, my father, and everyone else left the cemetery. In the entire cemetery, only the busy people digging the pit and filling the soil were left. Then I called the child's uncle's phone number and told him that he could start. Set off.
After a while, the child's uncle appeared in the field riding an electric tricycle, spreading smoke for the busy people digging holes and filling soil, and gave them money to thank them for their hard work on behalf of the deceased.
Not only that, the child's uncle also brought good wine and food, and let several strong men take a few symbolic bites.
After drinking two ounces of white wine, a few strong men began the last process, rounding the grave!
Twenty minutes later, a large grave appeared in front of everyone.
There was a gap deliberately left on the grave bag and not filled with soil. This gap was left to be filled by the child's uncle.
In the next three days, my uncle will come to pay homage to the deceased. Every time he pays homage, he will round the grave. By the third day, the vacancy will be completely filled, and all burial steps will be completed.
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