擇偶首要注重甚麼?
外表?聲線?學歷?德行?職業?品格?收入?家世?興趣?談吐?幽默感?見識?專業資格?
認識一位港女,曾揚言月薪不足3萬,約會沒預先訂枱訂票的追求者一律不予考慮。
有人拍拖為著談戀愛,有人拍拖純為找飯票,有人拍拖為添陪襯品;各取所需,求仁得仁也就沒啥好抱怨。最少港女開宗明義詳列收入條件,擺明車馬的貪婪總比他日發現貨不對辦才互相埋怨磊落些。
沒聯絡好些日子,從友人口中得悉港女泊了個好碼頭,更盛傳好事近。
好碼頭?不禁好奇能讓港女看上的理想對象到底是個怎樣的人。友人轉述港女男友不但手持本港物業,更在澳洲購入了價值千萬的豪宅。
這讓我想起《小王子》書中的一席話:
When you tell them that you have made a new friend, they never ask you any questions about essential matters……Only from these figures do they think they have learned anything about him.
If you were to say to the grown-ups: "I saw a beautiful house made of rosy brick, with geraniums in the windows and doves on the roof," they would not be able to get any idea of that house at all. You would have to say to them: "I saw a house that cost $20,000." Then they would exclaim: "Oh, what a pretty house that is!"
港女急不及待炫耀男友的資產值,然而我所關心的卻是他愛笑嗎?待她可好?愛吃甚麼菜?喜歡電影嗎?有甚麼嗜好?喜歡哪類型音樂?愛冒險嗎?最想到甚麼地方旅行?
隻字不提兩人如何結識、對方的人品如何、個性如何,嗜好甚麼的全都無關重要,介紹僅聚焦物業資產值,彷彿那便是男友唯一的價值。
奈何我既不會因富二代朋友家住淺水灣便來不及攀附,亦不會因友人蝸居劏房而鄙夷疏遠。
各人自有各人的價值觀,在港女眼中,一個人的物業資產值代表一切。可是在我看來,「net worth」卻無法告訴我那人是否誠實可靠、正直善良、風趣幽默、隨和可親……
介紹完畢,我對港女男友的認識依舊是零。
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